Monday, May 21, 2012

The Ladies in Michael’s Life

It has not been widely reported in the media about Michael’s relationships with women. The media often focus on Michael’s image, music and legal troubles. At times, the media did not believe that Michael ever been in a real relationship. I remembered when I was in high school and a classmate stated that he believed that Michael had to be in a lot of relationships in the music business or something to that effect. That had me thinking about that part of Michael that I never really looked into. Ten years later and plenty of information about this topic, I do believe – no – I know - that Michael had a lot of women in his life.

Michael with a group of female fans in the 1970s.

One of the main reasons Michael created the “Peter Pan” image was because he did not want people to know anything about his personal life. I remember reading a comment from him, I believe he stated this in his Moonwalk autobiography (that was ghost written, but I am not going to judge him for that. LOL.) in which he stated that the great artists of the ancient history eras, Michelangelo and Beethoven, were known for their work and not their personal lives. Michael wanted the public to focus on his work and not his personal life. Fair enough. Michael also created the image because he loved, loved, loved his privacy. That was one of the things that he treasured in his life. Michael did not want anyone, not even his own family, to know anything about him and the women in his life. When fans would want the family to confirm a former flame/girlfriend that stated that they were with Michael, the family couldn’t really do that because they probably do not know or they know but cannot make a statement about that. In fact, Tito stated in a interview with the magazine In Touch Weekly that Michael, 

“had more sex with women than he did.”

Michael with singer Stacy Lattisaw in 1984.

When I started to do my research on this subject, I would focus on the women that he was publicly seen with and what he stated about them. When he was young, around 12 years old, he had a crush on singer Diana Ross and the crush blossomed into love on his part. Around the same time that Michael was in love with Diana, when he was 17-19 years old, he was also dating (and I was later told by a friend of mine’s, Michael also fell in love with) actress Tatum O’Neal, dated singer and at the time, Broadway star Stephanie Mills and a Michael Jackson fan name Theresa Gonsalves. I noticed that Michael was with four women in a short period of time and had sex with at least two of the four women. At that time, (it was revealed in 2011 on a MJ themed radio show by gossip columnist and Jackson family friend, Flo Anthony) that Michael had dated a woman named Sheila and another woman, the 1st Black Miss Universe name Janelle Commissiong.

A fan giving Michael a kiss in the 1970s. Look at Michael's smile.

From the 1970s up until his murder in 2009, Michael developed a pattern: having relationships (which would be classified as dating, flings, liaisons and supposed engagements) with more than one woman. In other words, Michael was never completely with one woman. He had serious relationships with a few and still messed around with other women. When he was married (in legal terms, not realistically), he cheated on his wives. He was in “committed” relationships, but still fooled around.

Each woman who were with Michael during his lifetime, all have a story about him that were sweet, innocent, loving, unusual, different, asinine and tragic. These stories, in a way, show a side of Michael that we were not familiar with. After Michael’s passing, the website created a Michael Jackson Forum where fans can come and talk about Michael. Most of the female fans decided to create a thread all about the women in Michael’s life and that thread turned into a sub-forum all about this very subject. The media has made it a mission never to tell the public a true account of Michael and women mostly because the truth does not sell. The power of the Internet is changing the way people get information. If I never joined the MJ fan themed message boards in the 2000s, I would never have known 95% of the information that I know about Michael.

Michael with two sisters in 2007. What was this about really???

My research on this subject really had a boost in 2004 because a man name Scott Thorson, (who I mentioned on my previous entry) who was the lover of performer Liberace, made disturbing and ridiculous claims that he had a “gay” affair with Michael. Thorson went to the tabloid the National Enquirer to tell his “story” to the world. A former promotional employee of Michael’s was so angry with what he heard that he had to come forward and tell people what he knew about Michael. Thorson told this story during a time in Michael’s life where everything about him came into question. Michael was about to go on trial for child abuse and the last thing that he had to deal with was some money hungry loser coming forward claiming a “gay” affair and having child porn on a nightstand. When the promotional guy came on the now non-existing National Enquirer message board, he posted a reply that was seen all over the Michael Jackson fan forums/message board. 

"Let me break this down for you people and pay attention because I don't
like doing it more than once. Michael Jackson is thoroughly
heterosexual. He does not like men. He does not like boys. He likes women over the
age of 18. Shiiiiit, even before he was 18, he liked women well over
the age of 18. It's no secret within certain circles that Diana Ross was
his first. The poor guy thought he was going to marry her but she @#%$
him over with Gene Simmons and Arne Naess. He was pretty naive back
then, so he chose not to see the obvious. Then he was celibate for about 3
years, before becoming involved with a pretty, blond employee of his,
an actress from a popular '80s/early '90s sitcom, a singer that nobody
cares about anymore but was the back in the day, some
groupie/secretary, June Chandler (the mother of punk bitch Jordan who got jealous
of mommy's relationship with Michael) and, of course, Lisa Marie. Lisa
Marie was the only one he allowed himself to become more than just
sexually involved with since Diana, that boy was sprung. Lisa Marie,
however, led him to believe they would have a family of their own, but stayed on the pill anyway because even if she said she was a rebel, the little
bitch didn't want mommy dearest to get mad at her for having a lil
black child. Mike found the pills, split, messed around with a couple of
other women with the goal of getting one pregnant just to hurt Lisa (he
can be an as.shole sometimes, true) and eventually knocked up Debbie,
which, (if I didn't love and adore his children and think think they
saved his life) I would say was probably one of the biggest mistakes of his
life. He was never faithful to Debbie after they married, never even
wanted to marry her but Mike doesn't like to break his mother's heart. He
and Lisa continued having sex until 1999 (they weren't "together," theywere just @#%$), until he met his third child's mother, fell very much
in love with her, but he is his father's son, so he wasn't entirely
faithful to her, which is why they split up shortly after she found out
she was pregnant. From that time, up until right before these new
bullshit allegations broke, he was pretty much a dog. No attachment, just sex.
He has no time to get attached to somebody and then depressed again
after they part ways now that he has his children. I doubt he has time for anybody other than his children and his lawyers now.
There, you have it. Take it or leave it, but it's the truth. Mike would
hate me for putting his business out here like this, but at least it's
accurate, unlike all of the other trash going around now. He ain't my
boss anymore, so he's just going to have to put up with it. "
When I saw this information, I just had to contact this man because I wanted to know the information. I created an account on there and as soon as things went good on the logging in department, I immediately contacted the man through private message. There were two things that I regret not doing 1.) I never asked for his name or anything about him, 2.) I never saved the information that he told me on my email account and I never asked him all the questions that I wanted to ask him all at once. However, I do remember some of the things that he told me and when I do post the entries, I will tell the information that he stated to me.

Michael with a woman he went to school with and her daughter during the "Black and White" short film in 1991.

This subject is a subject that many fans do not want to discuss because of two reasons: 1.) the image that Michael created, 2.) It cheapens him and overshadows his music and humanitarian works. Personally, I think that it is unfair for most of his fans to believe that Michael’s brothers can fool around and have many women, but Michael couldn’t, shouldn’t and didn’t. Many fans like to forget that Michael was a man who had a father who cheated on his mother, did not understand why his brothers would be upset if a woman broke up with them, defended cheating and his oldest son had a girlfriend at the age of 13 among many things. Fans also have to understand that Michael intentionally did not want his fans to even know that side of him. No matter what is known about Michael in regards of this subject, nothing can truly overshadow his impact in music, pop culture and history.

This blog entry and others relating to this subject (that will be posted in June) will focus on the women that Michael loved, dated, flirted, had flings/liaisons with and the ones who were lucky to be engaged to him. Each woman will be listed along with a story that relates to their relationship with Michael. I will not mention Elizabeth Taylor, Sophia Loren, Jane Fonda and Debbie Rowe because I feel that Michael never had a romantic relationship with any of these women. The last thing that I want to do on this entry and this blog in general is to be phony about my honest feelings about certain people in his life. I am not interested if they were his “friends” and if Rowe gave birth to his children. Anyone can be Michael’s friend and anyone can give Michael children. It is what you do with those chances that make you who you are to Michael, if that made any sense.

Michael with Diana Ross and boy did he love this woman. Too bad she didn't feel the same for him. 

The entries on this subject will also show the how some fans know so much of this subject but the media refuses to do any real investigation or media reporting about it. I was told by a fellow fan that I communicate with that J. Randy Tarborrelli, who infamously implied that Michael was “asexual” until he spoke to Lisa Marie Presley, had 50 women contacted him and told him that they had relationships with Michael. Instead of Tarborelli going after these women and getting their stories told, he completely ignored them. Entertainment Tonight contacted Theresa Gonsalves and wanted to do an interview with her. They never called her back to schedule a time to do an interview with her. Shana Mangatal was interviewed by Us Weekly for 90 minutes only to have a small part of her interview in the magazine. Mangatal was also interviewed by MTV News and Inside Edition and neither programs showed the interview. There are probably more stories of women of Michael’s coming forward to tell their stories only to get ignored by the media. It is clear with these examples that the media has an agenda to make the public really think and believe that Michael never had relationships and never been in love with a woman. Thanks to his brother Jermaine and Michael’s ex-“wives”, people are now convinced that Michael never understood what it is like to be in a relationship. 

Finally, I want to offer my opinion about this subject because no one can state how I feel about it like me. I know there is a blog out there that focuses on this subject. However, the blogger, no offense to her, is excluding some of the women Michael was linked to on her blog. This entry, like all of the other entries, will be updated when more information that I believe is credible have surfaced. I am very selective because it is my blog and because I have to be. The last thing I want to do is post information that could be false. I want people to  know this side of Michael because people need to know that Michael, regardless of the crap he went through, had love in his life and no matter what type of relationships that he had with these women, he at least had his fun.

Michael giving a girl a ride on his bike back in 1970. Aww, so cute. 


Articles/Blog -
"Remembering Michael: 'He was definitely not gay' says Tito",, June 25, 2010.

"The Truth About Scott Thorson, A Liar' from Belinda O., Michael and the Truth,

Quote -
The quote that I posted was originally posted on the National Enquirer message board in 2004 from a former promotional man that worked for Michael.

The pictures came from my personal harddrive.